Manifestas

I know of a woman who wasn’t in good terms with her siblings. Both parties have their own flaws and faults but, anyway, that’s out of the story. The woman was admitted into the hospital one day and since then her siblings made peace with her. As they say, kindness doesn’t always get repaid with kindness. She said, “Oh, that’ll be only temporary. Give them some time and they’ll be in bad terms with me again.” And, in the blinded eyes of many people, this woman is supposed to be staunch in her religion. Staunch, my foot! She continued, “I can forgive but I can never forget.” (I hate that phrase. It’s so ironic! How can you forgive if you cannot forget? It’s obvious that the act is not forgiven since it cannot be forgotten. Forget about forgiving if you cannot forget.)

It irks me when people give lifetime punishments for mere mistakes. I mean, how many “sorry”s does it take for one to forgive someone? How many acts of remorse and regret does it take for one to put the differences aside? Yeah, certainly the severity of the mistakes must be taken into consideration. But you don’t expect someone to apologize for his whole life just because of a measly mistake. It’s not as if you’re God.

(I’ll add to this space, at a later time, something I saw on Oprah that has touched my heart. Am too sleepy now, teehee..)

Therefore, mean it when you accept any “maaf zahir batin” or apologies. It simply purifies the heart. Literally too, I guess. Coz when you truly forgive a person, you’d tend to forget the bad past. Not remembering the bad past leads to a calm and stable heart rate coz you don’t think about stuffs that make your blood boil. Also, blood pressure is maintained. Lowers the incidence of heart attack! (Me and my theory. How true is it - you do the science..)

*Just in case you’re wondering - No, that woman is not my sibling. Not related either. Thank God!